When
I was thinking about the topic I was going to choose to write about I thought
about the recent suicide that a young middle school girl had committed to herself
because she was being bullied at school by a few girls. This brought up the
memory I have when my own daughter was being bullied in school by a little girl
in the second grade. I can now see that this is a huge problem in this day in
age and very common all over the world. We as the adults need to find a way to
prevent this from happening to our children or anyone at that but how?
The first source that I found that I feel will help me with
my research on helping to prevent or possibly stop bullying is a book I found from
Google Scholar called Bullying at school:
What we know and what we can do. By Dan Olweus. In this article Dan speaks
about statistics of weather this problem happens more in urban or rural areas,
smaller or larger schools, between boys or girls more, weather victims or aggressors
can be identified, and most of all weather we can or cannot do anything about
it. He tells about how to recognize patterns and behaviors or other characteristics
to determine who is a victim of bullying and who is being the bully. Dan
promotes an anti-bullying campaign that is looked at from different levels such
as the school level, class level, individual level bully and victim, and at the
parent level.
The second source I found was an article also found through
Google Scholar called Understanding and
Preventing Bullying By David P. Farrington. In this article David starts
off with a bold description of what bullying is. He states “Bullying is a repeated
oppression, psychological or physical of a less powerful person by a more
powerful one”. I felt this was a very powerful statement and gives you a quick
visual of how bullying works. Most bullies are aggressive, tough, strong and impulsive.
Most victims are unpopular, lonely, rejected, anxious, unwilling to retaliate,
depressed and have low self-esteem, making them an easy target for someone to
bully them. This can lead to someone wanting to commit suicide since they were previously
already emotionally distressed and adding the problem of the bully making it
worse for the victim is how bullying can lead to suicide of the victim.
The solution that I found between both book and article is
that we need to first identify the problem and understand it before we can try
to fix it. Then decide where to start to help this situation get better.
References:
Olweus, Dan. Bullying at school: What we know and what we can do. Wiley-Blackwell, 1993.
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Farrington, David P.
"Understanding and preventing bullying." Crime and justice (1993):
381-458.
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Priscella,
ReplyDeleteThese sound like good articles to start your research. It's pretty sad the amount of bullying that takes place today. It does seem like it leads to a lot of suicides or deeper depression. I think it really takes a toll on the kids. It great they have all these anti bullying campaigns, but it only seems like bullying is getting worse. I saw this show, I think it was actually Steve Harvey or something where the kids running the anti bullying campaign were actually the kids who were doing the bullying. It makes you wonder what is going on in these kids brains. They are the mean ones, but taking credit for not bullying. It doesn't really make sense and it's sad. Did your daughter say what caused her bully's to attack? I will be interested to see what you find in your research, especially because this is such a huge topic right now. Hopefully the message can get across to all young kids, and even adults to stop all the bullying.
Heather
I think these articles sound so interesting. I am not going to say that I never made fun of anyone when I was younger because I am sure that I did, but what I will honestly say is if I knew someone had a really rough life at home or had no money I would try to be their friend. I sometimes felt though that those children felt like they were not good enough so they refused the friendship. I would try and try and try but in the end I just gave up because they would not put forth the effort to be my friend as well. They obviously have issues elsewhere and it was too much on them, but maybe you could add or find something about that. I do think that the lower income children get bullied more because they don’t look as “cool” as other students that have money. They are not wearing the latest fashion so they of course will get teased. I find that so heartbreaking knowing that if I don’t make enough money in the future my children could possibly be in that category of being teased. I don’t know about you but I also remember kids being teased over the simplest thing of boxed lunches. If you didn’t get to buy lunch you were not cool and couldn’t sit at the cool table, which could possibly make you go sit in the bathroom to eat your lunch. I think bulling is going to get worse over the next few years until the school system puts a no tolerance rule on it. I hope they do that fast before we lose any more innocent children to suicide. I can’t wait to read your essay!
ReplyDeletePriscella,
ReplyDeleteI think you have a great start on your research. One idea that I thought of as I was looking at the comic strip picture was is there any research done on teachers and schools educating children and families in the seriousness and consequences of bullying? It is apparent it is our job as parents and members of the community that we do our part to create a safe environment for our children to be a part of, but sometimes I think people still do not understand what bullying is. With the internet being a huge source for online slandering how do people monitor what is being said when it is so easy to "fake" an identity? I don't know it's just food for thought. I am anxious to see how your paper turns out because this is a topic that unfortunately we hear about all too often.
Good luck with the continuation of your research,
Brittany
We all know kids we grew up with that where bullied in school. After the young girl on the news killed herself do to bulling it reminded me of a situation that had happened when I was growing up. There was a boy that was very fair complicated with white hair, odd colored eyes and freckles everywhere. There was a group of girls that day after day would pick on him call him names and etc. I seen this happen day after day and never said anything even though I felt so sad for him. One day I had enough I didn’t tell them nothing but I went and sat down with him at lunch. The girls that would make fun of him seen this and stopped in fact they wanted to be friends with him as well. The rest of the year he was my buddy he would save me a spot at the table and would meet me at my class. I felt so good about my chose but was ashamed that I didn’t do something sooner. I shared this story with my kids after this girls story was on the news and told them to stick up for children that are bullied.
ReplyDeleteI feel like bulling is worse due to all the social networking cites and technology. It takes seconds to spread a message to tons of children. This is making bulling worse. It’s not just a few kids bulling it could be a handful of them. We need to teach our youth to stand up to bullies and stop them in their tracks.
Great information Brittany you sources had lots of great information!